when you say you care, doesn't mean you really do

I don't know what to think anymore. Every day when I work and my shift is about to end I feel this immense anxiety spikes making me feel like I'm about to throw up... And I have no idea why it's happening. Well... To be completely honest (with myself) I do have a few ideas...
For starters it might be the fact that right now I'm in the position of "relationship advisor" to help my bestie "seduce" her ex-gf a.k.a. that bitch I totally hate. Yeah... Isn't it great? Everyday I'm trying to keep my distance and do my best to support my bestie even though I absolutely loathe the things she's doing and is willing to endure for a person that in my (not so humble) opinion isn't even worth it!!!
I mean, seriously though... I do understand that there is love involved and all that (even though I suspect it's only a one way thing) but I still think that she should have cut the crap when she initially received those 15 rules... As it clearly shows now that the bitch cannot even play by her own rules... Whatever, who am I to judge, right?
But then there's this other thing... I feel so on edge lately and almost everytime angry, sometimes even to the point where I feel like hitting something or even someone! I am so mad all the time!! I really do feel like I am standing at the very edge of a razor and I don't know how to get away from that edge as to not slip over it... I would love to numb all those emotions so that I can finally stop hurting and start moving forward... Few weeks ago we had this heartfelt conversation over the phone where she promised that everything will go back to normal and that she will start spending time with me too again. Then there was a massive shit storm which resulted in their temporary separation and some hurtful words. And so my bestie was ONCE AGAIN left as a shell of the person I used to know and even though they communicate now with all these stupid rules and other shit, I still feel like she's not getting better, if anything then she's getting worse... Trying to drown her demons in alcohol while spending time with local homeless squad, not doing anything home, not even being home! Not to mention that she's not eating properly and as far as I'm concerned I'm not even sure if she drinks anything else than a beer... It's really saddening. I am really hurting for my friend and she sometimes acts as if I'm not even there... She's so distant... 
And as if all of that isn't enough! Yesterday she asked me one thing that totally took away all of my remaining faith... You see, there's this silver necklace with a heart pendant. Bestie got it from that bitch when they were initially together all those years ago, then bestie gave it to me and I was wearing it for about 5 or so years... And yesterday she asked me if she could have the necklace back!?!!!! Are you serious?!? I feel like I want to bang my head against the wall until I lose consciousness!!! 
I gave it back nonetheless... What other option did I have really? What should I do?

I am so tired of all this, I don't want to deal with all of this... I just want to disappear...

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